As we enter the third semester, Life&Style writer Matthew Magill looks back on what UoB students were getting up to before the stress of exams kicked inWritten by Matthew Magill on 26th April 2017
How to Resolve a Friendship Fallout
Life&Style writer Katie McDonald gives us her top advice on how to resolve a friendship fallout and avoiding holding grudges that can ruin friendships
Grudges are bitter, often petty and we soon end up realising that it’s just not worth the aggravation. Studies show that when you fight and argue with a friend, you are likely to feel angry and irritated with the belief that of course you’re in the right. Why should you back down?
Give the whole episode some serious thought. How did this start? You might come to the realisation that you said something out-of-order without the intention of hurting or that you did something silly that you now regret. Think honestly here, meaning “it definitely wasn’t my fault, she started it” doesn’t count and won’t work for anyone, so mull it over and make a choice.
“Take time out and give yourself some space
I said it before and I’ll say it again. Take time out and give yourself some space. It might just be that you needed a little distance to think things over or maybe things between the both of you have been a little intense lately, so this works like magic. Go for a walk, get some fresh air, chill out with your inner self. Realise what you want and go from there. You often see what you were blind to after a mini detox.
“Don’t hold onto a small grudge that might mean you’re the one jeopardising a fruitful friendship that works both ways
Think about the future. Don’t hold onto a small grudge that might mean you’re the one jeopardising a fruitful friendship that works both ways. Life is just too short to fall out with a friend, especially when they are the nicest thing you can have and the nicest thing you can be. Besides, University is the best place to be making friends, don’t lose them before you’ve left for life.