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Romantic Types: Are We Restricting Ourselves Too Much?
Life&Style editor Imogen Lancaster explains why she thinks we may be limiting ourselves by being so set on a romantic 'type'
Almost everyone will claim to have a romantic ‘type’: in other words what an individual considers to be ideal characteristics in a match. Inherently we seem to have biological preferences that we are naturally attracted to, whether it be particular ethnicities, height, hair colour or body types…the list goes on! And whilst there are immediate turn ons, almost everyone has turn offs which are deal breakers when it comes to one’s appearance.
More often than not, we make our romantic endeavours and choose our partners based on this. Of course this goes without saying: attraction is a key and necessary component of a romantic relationship. But with the prospect of an all time high in singles, I must pose the question: are we being too picky?
“But with the prospect of an all time high in singles, I must pose the question: are we being too picky
I too am victim of this fussy and choosy culture. It is instilled into us that we shouldn’t settle for second best and should wait for the perfect partner who ticks all the boxes. And who can blame us? We have watched endless rom coms and Disney fairy tales that feature only the most attractive stars and characters. These stories are painted as both aspirational and attainable and we convince ourselves that Mr or Mrs. Right is within reach.
At the end of the day, we are all aware that nobody is perfect. Many will claim their significant other or celebrity crush to be so, but humans are not without their flaws. We have to compromise when settling for our significant other. Compromise is undeniably a part of life, and relationships.
So perhaps we are being too closed-minded and not giving someone the benefit of the doubt. Maybe we’ve disregarded and friend-zoned potential interests before we get to give them a chance. Maybe he or she isn’t tall enough or doesn’t have your preferred hair colour or is carrying a few extra pounds.
“In reality, overlooking someone for such superficial characteristics or ‘fatal flaws’ may be a wasted opportunity and a shallow judgement to make
In reality, overlooking someone for such superficial characteristics or ‘fatal flaws’ may be a wasted opportunity and a shallow judgement to make. As cliché as it may be, one’s personality, similarities and values are arguably the most important considerations in finding a significant other. We live in a society preoccupied by looks. Take tinder for example, a dating app revolving around one’s appearance whilst one’s personal bio comes secondary. But maybe we have our priorities all wrong.
Whilst there are undeniably non-negotiable turn ons and turn offs, perhaps we should be more open minded in looking beyond our ‘type’. Having a ‘type’ in the first place is a restrictive mind-set. Of course it’s not about forcing something that isn’t there, but widening our horizon and at least considering other options may be the best thing you’ve ever done.