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Man! I Feel Like a Man – Masculinity in the Modern World
Life and Style Writer Caitlin Steele discusses the issues within the concept of masculinity and how it is defined in a modern society
The concept of masculinity is difficult to pinpoint accurately. Everyone knows vaguely what we mean when describing something as masculine, yet we struggle to isolate its essence. When providing synonyms for masculinity, Google states ‘virility, vigour, strength and toughness.’ But what makes these traits masculine? Are these traits solely associated with masculinity, or are they also associated with femininity? How do we define masculinity nowadays, and is it important that we continue to do so? There are many questions about what masculinity is, and how we define it will largely remain unique to each individual.
“Men are three times more likely to become dependent on alcohol, and more likely to use (and die from) illegal substances
The concept of masculinity comes with its own issues. Take, for example, the aforementioned examples provided by Google. In themselves, they seem relatively harmless – ‘strong’ and ‘tough’ are not inherently bad things to be. The way in which they are enforced on men by society, however, is. Men are not encouraged to be open about their emotions in the way that women are, a bleak fact when you are also aware that suicide is the biggest killer of men under 45 in the United Kingdom. Over the last six years, a 70% increase in hospital admissions for adult men with eating disorders has led health experts to blame social media and popular culture for the increased pressure to fit the male ideal.
The worrying statistics continue – men are three times more likely to become dependent on alcohol, and more likely to use (and die from) illegal substances. Of course, no one is suggesting that the concept of masculinity is to blame for this. However, the way that society has latched onto and enforced these traits has turned it toxic.
“Men who express love for their family or friends are considered feminine and emasculated
Men also disclosed how they felt they could not be friendly to children, for fear of being construed as inappropriate or suspicious. Within these examples, it becomes clear the negatives society has attached to masculinity, introducing an incredibly fine line between the acceptable and the shunned. Another user stated he struggled with the fact men who express love for their family or friends are considered feminine and emasculated, referencing the fact he had never heard his own father say ‘I love you,’ or ever been hugged by him.
Masculinity in itself is not inherently positive or negative. It simply is. It is entirely possible to be masculine without it having any detriment to you or anyone else. However, the way in which society and the media push masculinity can be incredibly damaging, and as these examples show, something we do not discuss enough. Masculinity, at its core, comprises all the qualities typical of men – let’s all work together to make them synonymous with honesty, acceptance, and openness.